Somatic Intimacy & Relationship Coaching for Men in Chicago & VirtualBecome more present. More relationally skilled.
More trustworthy with your desire, communication, and impact. Through consent-centered, body-based coaching, you cultivate embodied presence, erotic self-trust, and the relational skills that support deeper, more honest connection.
Start with a short application. Once it’s reviewed, you’ll receive a link to book your consultation.
Chicago & online · Adults 18+
Relational safety isn’t something you proclaim. It’s something you practice.
At PleasureFWRD, we slow experiences down so you can notice what happens in your body during attraction, intimacy, conflict, and vulnerability.
This work is not about performing personal growth. It’s about learning how to embody it.
I don’t believe men need another place telling them how to be men.
- Who are you when you aren’t performing masculinity, partnership, confidence, or sexuality?
- How do you communicate when you’re afraid of disappointing someone?
- How do you hear no without experiencing it as rejection of who you are?
- How do you stay present when your partner is hurt or angry?
- How do you express desire without pressure?
- How do you recognize your own boundaries?
- How do you take accountability without collapsing into shame or becoming defensive?
- How do you stay connected to yourself while deeply connected to another person?
These are relational capacities. And capacities can be practiced.
This is for you if you want to…
- Communicate more openly with a partner
- Navigate conflict without shutting down, escalating, or getting defensive
- Better understand your emotions, needs, and relational patterns—and theirs
- Feel more confident dating, initiating, and expressing attraction
- Develop a healthier relationship with desire, sexuality, and pleasure
- Navigate rejection, boundaries, and consent with greater capacity
- Work with sexual confidence, arousal, or performance pressure
- Reconnect with intimacy in a long-term relationship
- Become a more attentive, trustworthy partner and lover
It’s probably not for you if…
- You want coaching to replace therapy or medical care, rather than work alongside it
- You’re looking for hands-on bodywork
- You want quick tricks to perform rather than skills to practice
You don’t need to be in crisis. Some men arrive because something isn’t working. Others come because they want more depth, confidence, intimacy, and self-awareness. Both are welcome here.
This space welcomes all men, including trans men.
The PleasureFWRD Men’s PathwayRelational skill isn’t something you’re simply supposed to know.
Self-awareness
Know yourself.
Recognize your emotions, desires, boundaries, patterns, and how your body responds to intimacy, attraction, conflict, and vulnerability.
Presence
Stay with what is happening.
Remain connected rather than immediately fixing, withdrawing, performing, defending, or escalating.
Consent
Desire without entitlement.
Practice asking, listening, receiving yes, respecting no, and navigating uncertainty without pressure.
Attunement
Notice the person in front of you.
Become more aware of pace, tone, body language, emotional cues, and capacity—and check in rather than assume.
Communication
Say what is true.
Express desires, needs, boundaries, and difficult emotions clearly, without controlling another person or abandoning yourself.
Accountability
Hold intention and impact.
Receive feedback, recognize your impact, and take responsibility without collapsing into shame or disappearing into defensiveness.
Repair
Learn how to return.
Navigate rupture, apologize meaningfully, reconnect, and let changed behavior become part of repair.
Erotic integrity
Become trustworthy with desire.
Cultivate sexual confidence, erotic self-trust, and a relationship with desire rooted in consent, responsibility, curiosity, and attunement.
The thread running through all of this is capacity.
There is no single way to be a man, a partner, or a lover.
Relationships & partnership
For men who want to become more present and connected in their relationships.
Dating & attraction
For men navigating dating, attraction, or new relationships.
Desire & sexuality
For men wanting a more honest and connected relationship with their erotic selves.
Sexual confidence & performance
For men experiencing pressure, anxiety, or disconnection during sexual experiences.
Emotional & relational patterns
For men who keep finding themselves in the same dynamics and want to understand what’s happening.
Embodied confidence & self-trust
For men who want to feel more grounded in who they are.
You don’t need to arrive knowing exactly what you need to work on.
Choose your depth.
- Ongoing coaching
Private Intimacy & Relationship Coaching
Build the skills. Practice them. Live them.
For men who want meaningful change through practice, reflection, and real-life integration. Depending on your goals, we may work with communication, boundaries, consent, conflict and repair, dating, erotic self-trust, sexual confidence, desire, and intimacy.
Apply for private coaching - Focused session
Private Intensive
Go directly to the edge you’re ready to work with.
A focused private experience for a specific relational or intimate challenge—communication, rejection, dating, confidence, boundaries, intimacy, performance pressure, or a recurring pattern—without starting with a longer container.
Apply for an intensive - Private ritual
The Embodied Man™
A private ritual for designing your erotic life.
For the man who isn’t trying to fix a problem, but wants space to explore who he is erotically and what he genuinely wants. Move through Discover → Design → Experience → Integrate and create your PleasureFWRD Blueprint™.
Explore The Embodied Man™
Sometimes the body becomes the place where pressure shows up.
Difficulty getting or keeping an erection, changes in arousal, performance anxiety, or feeling disconnected during sex can carry far more than a physical experience. Many men begin monitoring themselves during intimacy:
Sex becomes something to accomplish rather than something to experience. Together we can work with what happens around these experiences—pressure, shame, anticipation, self-monitoring, communication, and fear of disappointing a partner—through slowing down, receiving, communicating, reconnecting with sensation, and expanding your definition of pleasure.
The goal isn’t to teach your body to perform. It’s to build a different relationship with the experience.
PleasureFWRD does not diagnose or treat erectile dysfunction, hormonal conditions, pelvic-health concerns, or other medical or mental-health conditions. Because changes in erection or arousal can have physical, psychological, relational, or medication-related contributors, a medical evaluation or collaboration with a licensed professional may be recommended.
Different scopes. Complementary support.
Collaborative care
You don’t have to ask one practitioner to be everything. When appropriate, PleasureFWRD can complement the work you’re already doing with a therapist, physician, pelvic-health professional, or other qualified provider. They support diagnosis, treatment, and deeper therapeutic processing; our work offers an educational, experiential space to practice communication, boundaries, consent, presence, and new ways of connecting. With your consent, collaboration may be possible. Different scopes. Complementary support.
Hello, I’mMayra!
I’m a Somatica®-trained sex and relationship coach and Certified Sexologist. I work with men who want to become more present, honest, and trustworthy in intimacy—without being told how they’re supposed to be men.
This is coaching and education, not therapy. I don’t diagnose or treat, and I refer out when something calls for clinical support.
- Somatica®-trainedSex & relationship coach
- Certified SexologistAmerican Board of Sexology
- Chicago & onlinePrivate sessions
You don’t need to diagnose yourself or choose the perfect container.
Start with a short application. If it feels aligned, you’ll receive a link to book a private consultation, and we’ll decide together which level of support makes the most sense.
PleasureFWRD offers coaching and education—not psychotherapy, medical care, or hands-on bodywork. Everything is an invitation; participation is always optional.