Private Somatic Intimacy & Relationship Coaching for Couples
Somatic-Based & Nervous-System Aware
Helping high-functioning couples practice relational repair, rebuild trust and restore emotional and erotic connection through consent-centered, embodied coaching.
Chicago & online.
For Couples Who Care — and Still Feel Stuck
You love each other. You’re committed. You may have already spent considerable time reflecting, communicating or working on your relationship.
And yet something feels off.
Connection looks fine on the surface, while intimacy feels distant underneath. Desire may feel mismatched, pressured, or quietly absent. The same conversations and arguments repeat, even with good intentions.
Together, we explore the patterns influencing your connection, strengthen communication and consent skills, map bodily boundaries and create pathways toward greater trust, intimacy and relational safety.
This work is not about deciding who is right or fixing either partner.
It is about learning how to relate again—with presence, accountability, curiosity and choice.
What is Somatic Intimacy & Relationship Coaching?
Somatic intimacy and relationship coaching brings the body into the conversation.
Sessions combine relationship education, nervous-system awareness, consent practices, guided reflection, communication rehearsal and experiential exercises.
Rather than only discussing what happens between you, we may slow down and notice how each partner responds to closeness, conflict, desire and vulnerability in the present.
You may become more aware of sensations, emotions, protective responses, boundaries and learned relational patterns as they arise. From that awareness, you can practice responding to each other with greater intention and choice.
We do not just talk about intimacy. We practice new ways of being together in real time—with consent, curiosity and clear boundaries.
What Makes PleasureFWRD Different
Many couples already understand their relationship intellectually.
PleasureFWRD creates opportunities to bring that understanding into embodied practice.
Nervous system regulation & attunement
Learn practices that support nervous-system regulation and help you notice how stress, activation and felt safety influence communication, intimacy and connection.
Practice remaining more present and choiceful when conversations become vulnerable, emotionally charged or difficult.
Attachment, Closeness & Individuality
Notice how attachment patterns and past relational experiences may influence closeness, conflict, reassurance and independence in the present. Together, we practice honoring attachment needs and individuality so that connection does not require either partner to lose themselves.
Relational Repair
Practice returning to connection through empathy, attunement, accountability, curiosity, honest communication and respect for each partner’s experience.
Relational repair does not require immediate agreement. It creates room to understand impact, take responsibility and make more intentional choices moving forward.
Intimacy without self-abandonment
Explore desire differences, low-desire seasons, performance pressure, sexual avoidance and changing intimacy without forcing, convincing or overriding either partner.
Learn to remain connected to your own needs and boundaries while staying in relationship with each other.
Trust and Relational Safety
Explore how consent, consistency, clear boundaries, emotional honesty and the freedom to pause or say no can support the rebuilding of trust and relational safety.
This Work May Be for You If:
You feel emotionally connected but erotically distant—or the reverse.
Desire feels confusing, uneven or surrounded by pressure.
You revisit the same arguments, even when you are trying to communicate differently.
One or both partners tend to withdraw, over-function, appease, become defensive or feel overwhelmed.
Resentment or avoidance has begun replacing curiosity and closeness.
You want to communicate more honestly about needs, boundaries and pleasure.
Touch or sex has started to feel pressured, awkward or difficult to navigate.
You are adjusting to changes in your relationship, body, identity or sexuality.
You are exploring consensual non-monogamy, kink or alternative relationship structures.
You want intimacy that feels more connected, alive and mutually chosen.
You do not need to be in crisis.
You do need a willingness to be curious, honest and respectful of each other’s boundaries.
What Couples May Experience
Every couple and relationship is different. Depending on your intentions, coaching may support:
Greater awareness of how stress and activation influence your interactions.
Clearer expression of needs, desires and boundaries.
More intentional conversations about intimacy and sex.
Less shame and personalization around desire differences.
Increased capacity to remain present during vulnerable conversations.
Relational repair after moments of tension or disconnection.
Greater trust through consistency, consent and honest communication.
More emotional and erotic aliveness without pressure or obligation.
A deeper understanding of each partner’s relational patterns.
More choice and curiosity in place of automatic reactions.
These are potential areas of growth, not guaranteed outcomes.
This is not about becoming a “better” couple.
It is about becoming more honest, intentional and real together.
“Most couples don’t come here because they’ve fallen out of love.
They come because connection, desire, & intimacy feel harder to access”
The Process
1. Begin a Private Conversation
We start with a 30-minute consultation to explore what is happening between you, what each partner is hoping for and whether PleasureFWRD couples coaching is an appropriate fit.
This consultation is also an opportunity to ask questions about the coaching process, scope and boundaries.
2.Set Intentions Together
During your first session, we identify your shared and individual desires, boundaries and priorities.
Partners do not need to want exactly the same outcome. Our intentions provide direction without forcing alignment or predetermining what your relationship should become.
3.Experiential Sessions
Sessions are consent-led, body-based and tailored to your relationship.
Practices may include:
Nervous-system regulation and attunement exercises.
Guided body-awareness practices.
Structured communication and listening exercises.
Consent and boundary practices.
Relational repair conversations.
Breath, clothed movement or grounding practices.
Optional eye-gazing or proximity exercises.
Optional self-directed or partner-to-partner touch exercises.
Exploration of desire, pleasure, eroticism or power dynamics when mutually desired.
Every practice is invitational. Either partner may modify, observe, pause or decline an exercise at any time.
Mayra does not provide massage, tissue manipulation, intimate touch, or sexual activity. Any optional touch practice occurs exclusively between established partners attending together.
4.Integration Into Real Life
You may leave sessions with reflections, communication practices or embodied invitations to explore between sessions.
Integration creates opportunities to practice relational repair, consent, connection and desire in the everyday moments that shape your relationship.
FAQ:
There is no “right” or “wrong” partner here.
All patterns form from lived experiences.
These questions can help you see if somatic couples coaching is right for you:
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PleasureFWRD coaching focuses on education, present-focused reflection, nervous-system awareness, consent skills, communication practice and self-directed or partner-to-partner embodied somatic exploration.
It does not assess, diagnose or treat mental-health conditions, trauma, abuse, addiction or relationship disorders.
Couples therapy is provided within a licensed clinical relationship and may assess or treat mental-health symptoms, trauma, psychological distress or clinical relationship concerns.
Some couples choose to work
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Each couples container is tailored to the partners involved and may include:
Nervous-system regulation and attunement.
Relational repair and accountability.
Communication of wants, needs and boundaries.
Consent as an ongoing conversation.
Desire differences without pressure or blame.
Emotional and erotic intimacy.
Relationship agreements and expectations.
Pleasure, play and curiosity.
Attachment-pattern awareness.
Consensual non-monogamy and alternative relationship structures.
Kink, BDSM or power dynamics when desired.
There is no requirement to perform, engage sexually or become a particular kind of couple.
The intention is greater honesty, awareness and choice.
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No.
Each partner may arrive with different needs, questions or hopes. Coaching creates space to name those differences without forcing immediate agreement.
Some situations—such as active abuse, coercive control, untreated addiction, serious mental-health concerns or an immediate relationship crisis—may require support beyond PleasureFWRD’s coaching scope.
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Yes. Relational repair is an important part of PleasureFWRD couples coaching.
You may practice acknowledging impact, listening without immediately defending, expressing needs, taking accountability and returning to connection after tension.
Coaching does not guarantee reconciliation or determine whether partners should remain together.
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Coaching may support couples in rebuilding trust through greater consistency, transparency, consent, accountability and communication.
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Unlike talk-based couples therapy, somatic intimacy coaching works directly with the nervous system, body awareness, and relational patterns that shape how you connect.
Together, we explore:
How your bodies respond to closeness, conflict, and desire
Where safety breaks down — and how to rebuild it
How unspoken emotions live in the body
How consent, boundaries, and communication restore intimacy
You’ll learn to:
Slow down reactivity
Name needs without blame
Listen beyond words
Rebuild trust through embodied experiences
This creates real change, not just insight.
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This Work Is for You If…
You’re in a long-term relationship and intimacy has changed
One partner wants more sex than the other
Low libido or mismatched desire is creating tension
You avoid sex to avoid conflict
Touch feels confusing, pressured, or unsafe
You want to repair intimacy without “fixing” each other
You’re curious about deeper emotional or erotic connection
This work meets you where you are, not where you think you should be.
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Each couples container is tailored, but may include:
Somatic practices to rebuild safety and connection
Tools for communicating wants, needs, and boundaries
Nervous-system regulation for conflict and shutdown
Repairing desire discrepancies without pressure
Reconnecting to pleasure at a pace that feels safe
Exploring intimacy, eroticism, or power dynamics (if desired)
There is no goal to perform, have sex, or be a certain way.
The goal is honest connection.
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You do not need to arrive with a complete plan or shared language. The initial conversation helps us explore your questions, intentions and whether this work is aligned with your needs.
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No. The work is designed to slow things down, not escalate.
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Yes. Low libido is often connected to safety, stress, resentment, or pressure — not a lack of desire. Somatic work helps address the root causes
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No.
You choose what you want to discuss and explore. Sexuality may be part of the work, but sexual disclosure is never required.
All exploration is guided by consent, relevance and the boundaries of both partners.
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Sessions do not include sexual activity or erotic touch with Mayra.
Some sessions may include optional, clothed, partner-to-partner or self-directed practices involving proximity, eye contact, movement or non-genital touch.
Every invitation may be modified, observed, paused or declined.
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Yes.
PleasureFWRD welcomes adults exploring consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, relationship anarchy, kink, BDSM and power-exchange dynamics.
Coaching remains educational, consent-centered and within the boundaries described above. There is no nudity, sexual activity, intimate touch, pain application facilitated by Mayra.
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Coaching may explore performance pressure, communication, erotic self-trust, body awareness and the relational experiences surrounding arousal.
PleasureFWRD does not diagnose or treat erectile dysfunction or determine whether a concern is physical or psychological. New, persistent or distressing changes in sexual functioning should be evaluated by a qualified healthcare professional.
If you are unsure but curious, our next step is simple