Private somatic intimacy & relationship coaching for men in Chicago & virtually.

Erotic self-trust. Quiet confidence. Real connection.

Private, one-on-one work for men who want their desire, confidence, and relationships to feel as grounded and reliable as the rest of their lives.
This work is for men who are capable, successful, and high-functioning—whether single or partnered—who sense that intimacy has become pressured, managed, or disconnected from who they really are.
This is not therapy.
It is private, experiential work designed to restore trust in your body, your desire, and yourself.
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Application is a conversation, not a commitment.

Men often come to this work when:

  • Desire has faded in a long-term relationship or marriage

  • Intimacy feels strained, pressured, or disconnected

  • Confidence feels fragile or performative

  • Communication feels tense or guarded

  • They’re successful professionally but feel stuck relationally

  • They want more depth, presence, and aliveness—without therapy

Sometimes there’s a clear issue.

Sometimes it’s just a quiet sense that something is off.

Both belong here.

This Is the Truth About My Practice

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I don’t analyze men. I don’t diagnose them. And I don’t try to fix them.  
Not because I don’t care—but because that approach pulls people out of their bodies. 
I work through the body.
We slow down and listen to what your body needs in intimacy and relationship.
This work is consent-led, and experiential. We stay with what’s real—what you’re feeling, what your body is responding to, and what’s happening between you and another person.
That’s where trust and connection begin to return.

The Men I Work With Aren’t Broken

Quite the opposite.
They’re capable.
They care deeply.
And they’re carrying a lot.
Pressure.
Responsibility.
Unspoken expectations.
Years of holding it together.
Over time, that weight shows up as disconnection:
Less desire
Less confidence
Less emotional or relational closeness
Not because something is wrong with you—
but because your body has been holding more than it’s had space to feel.
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MEN’S OFFERINGS

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    EROTIC SELF-TRUST & RELATIONAL CAPACITY

    Core Men’s Container

    Private 1:1 somatic intimacy and relationship coaching for men who want to develop embodied erotic and relational skills—not just insight.

    This container is focused on building erotic self-trust, identifying and working with your core erotic theme, and developing practical relational skills such as presence, attunement, boundaries, and honest expression—without performance, shutdown, or self-abandonment.

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    MEN IN RELATIONSHIPS (intensive)

    Individual Work for Partnered Men

    Private 1:1 somatic intimacy and relationship coaching for men in committed relationships who feel pressure around sex, desire differences, or emotional shutdown, and want to stay connected without self-abandonment.

    This work supports intimacy without performance and helps men clarify boundaries, needs, and desires in a way that feels authentic and sustainable.

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    Embodied Attraction & Conscious Dating

    Men’s Dating Container

    Private 1:1 somatic intimacy and relationship coaching for men who are single, dating, newly divorced, or redefining how they want to show up in intimacy and relationships.

    This work is for men who want to date and relate from their body, not from scripts—and build connections that feel aligned, intentional, and sustainable.

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A Different Way to Understand Desire & Relationships.

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Desire does not respond to demand.
It responds to permission.

When intimacy becomes a place to:
  • Prove love
  • Maintain confidence
  • Reassure a partner
  • Protect an identity
  • Avoid conflict
The body adapts by pulling back, bracing, avoiding, or performing.
Not as failure.
As intelligence.
Fluctuating desire, inconsistent arousal, or shutdown are not signs that something is wrong with you—or your relationship.
They are signs that your erotic self no longer feels safe to lead inside the relationship.

Sex, Desire, and the Body (What Most Men Aren’t Told)

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For many men, sexuality & emotional vulnerability become tied to:

  • Worth
  • Reliability
  • Masculinity
  • Being a “good partner”
That creates pressure the body cannot meet.
In this work:
  • Fluctuating arousal is treated as information, not failure
  • Erections are not demanded—they’re allowed
  • Desire is explored without moral pressure
  • The body is trusted, not forced
When pressure leaves, response & connection return.
Not as performance—but as expression.
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testimonials

“I didn’t realize how disconnected I was until I felt my body softening again”
“I now know how to listen to what my body is telling me before I react”
“For the first time, I can feel my needs instead of thinking about them”

What This Is — and Isn’t

This is:

Individual, private work for men
  • Applicable whether you’re single or partnered
  • Discreet and relationship-respectful
  • Focused on erotic integrity, desire, and connection

This is not:

  • Couples therapy
  • Sexual technique coaching
  • Pressure to disclose or act on desires
  • Performance or masculinity training
This work strengthens relationships by helping men stop abandoning themselves, express needs clearly, offer boundaries lovingly, and claim erotic self-trust.
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  • Men often report:

    • Less pressure and shame around sex

    • More trust in their bodies

    • Desire that feels consistent and alive

    • Relationships that feel more honest and connected

    • Intimacy that feels relaxed and mutual

    • Confidence that no longer feels at risk

    Not because they tried harder—
    but because they stopped performing.

    • Private 1:1 sessions

    • Chicago-based or virtual all over the world

    • Discreet, high-touch containers

    • Application-based

    Applying is a conversation—not a commitment.

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If this page resonates, the first step is a conversation —
a space to explore what you’re navigating and whether this work feels aligned.
Application is not a commitment.